1. Interfere with Employment
Financial abusers often use controlling behaviours to make one appear to be an unreliable employee. They often try to make the individual late, force them to leave work early, or even miss work altogether. It is also common for these controlling behaviours to spill over into the workplace by engaging in stalking or harassing behaviours. They may actively attempt to sabotage one’s performance or damage their reputation with a view to creating an avenue for total dependency on them (the perpetrator)
2. Hide Financial & Credit Decisions
Financially abusive partners often use controlling behaviours to keep individuals from having access to their financial documents, including income statements, banking documents or credit card bills. They may take out credit cards in their partner’s name, and possibly forge signatures on receipts and cheques. As a result the individuals may suddenly discover that they have agreed to be kept on a tight allowance with no access to emergency funds, possess bounced cheques and delinquent credit card bills ruining their credit rating.
All these form a range of controlling behaviours that financial abusers use to make life unbearable for their partners.
People who manage to successfully leave a financial abuser; may find that they use controlling behaviours to get out of paying child support. They will often refuse to pay for child support for the children and repeatedly make excuses for late or missing payments. It is not uncommon for financial abusers to submit falsified income documents to try to reduce payments. These controlling behaviours may even go as far as denying that the children belong to them.
Many non-resident parents report “cash for contact” demands where the financial abuser uses financial demands to control the amount of parenting time they can have with their children. These demands are over and above assessed child support and is often demanded in cash (some times in front of the children). Financially abusive former partners can also supply false information not only to employers and public agencies about their ex’s income or what they are paying towards the child support but also most damagingly to friends and family.
One of the most common of the controlling behaviours used by financial abusers is the threat of calling social services. Financial abusers repeatedly tell their partners that they are bad parents, sowing a seed of doubt about their style of parenting. This ends up making them feel insecure and question their judgements about caring for their children. Financial abusers may threaten to stop any form of welfare support received by their partners, and may even go as far as stealing it to ensure there’s no money to live on.
6. Kick Partners Out of the House
Financial abusers will go through drastic measures to make sure their controlling behaviours have an impact on their partners. This may extend to threatening or actually kicking them out of the house, shutting off utilities, or making false claims with the goal of having their benefits revoked. At times these abusive and controlling behaviours actually get the entire family evicted because many landlords will not tolerate the yelling and other noises associated with domestic abuse.
7. Refuse To Care For The Children
Financial abusers have no shame and will not think twice about using children as pawns in their emotionally controlling behaviours. They will often refuse to assist with the care of children, either through spending time with them or helping to pay for child care. They could also exercise their controlling behaviours on the children themselves, leaving them feeling unloved and abused.
One of the major impacts of dealing with the controlling behaviours of a financial abuser is the legal predicaments experienced by their partners. The perpetrators will frequently make false accusations with a view to creating difficulties within the legal system including contact and residence actions. Individuals may be threatened, stalked or harassed to the point where there is a need to file for a restraining order, which often leads to further controlling behaviours in retaliation. Equally, where parents are separated one may make false or unfounded allegations about the other’s behaviour or worth as a parent to prolong expensive correspondence between solicitors in the hope that the other will give up the struggle to see their children.