There are many different types of abuse, but it’s always about having power and control over you. Domestic abuse is controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse regardless of your sexuality or gender. It may be psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional abuse.
You may be a victim of harassment, stalking, rape, sexual assault, female genital mutilation, forced marriage, trafficking and honour-based abuse these are all types of domestic violence and abuse.
Examples of Abuse
Examples of emotional abuse:
Examples of threats and intimidation by your partner:
Examples of physical abuse, your partner may:
Examples of sexual abuse by your partner:
Women's aid have put together useful information to help you make a personal safety plan. This is an essential way of helping you to protect yourself and your children. It will help you to think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship, or if you make the decision to leave.
Separating joint finances
Types of joint financial liability include:
Safety issues with a joint bank account
Financial association and joint debts
Assigned policies or private pensions
Marriage or civil partnership tax allowance
Online and electronic device security
Tips to improve your security and personal safety:
Supporting a friend
You may suspect or recognise that a friend or family member is being abused, you should initiate talks by letting them know you have noticed that something is wrong. You should try to find a quiet time, so they can open up and talk if they feel ready to.
If someone approaches you and is ready to confides in you that they are suffering from domestic abuse, you should do the following:
The police and the law
You have the right under the Domestic violence disclosure scheme to ask the police to check whether a new or existing partner has a violent past. This is known as ‘right to ask’. On checking records, the police will consider disclosing the information if they are concerned you may be at risk of domestic abuse from a partner. A disclosure can be made providing if it is legal, proportionate and necessary to do so. If you are a third party, such as a family member or friend you can also apply for the disclosure under ‘right to ask’. The police will release the information as long as it is lawful, necessary and proportionate to do so.
To make an application under the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme you can contact the police using the following methods:
Coercive control and the law
Court orders you can apply for
You could try to gain some protection from your abuser by applying for a civil injunction or protection order.
A non-molestation order
An occupation order
Power of arrest
It is possible to get legal aid for domestic abuse.